Many people enquire about having a teacher on one’s spiritual path. Well, what’s a spiritual teacher? What can this relationship appear to be? Wouldn’t it be your best option for you?
Many individuals have asked me my opinion on having a teacher on a spiritual path. Like the rest in life, there are only points of view as to whether this choice is the best one for you. All I can perform is reflect my personal experience regarding having a teacher and what I feel the advantages and problems are of doing this kind of relationship.
First and foremost, a teacher is anyone who has been down the exact same road that you are traveling – albeit at least a couple of miles ahead of you course in miracles author. They understand the pitfalls and the roadblocks, and can assist you in making your path easier and less painful. They could comfort you with the information that many individuals have walked this road before and survived, no matter how difficult the trail may appear for your requirements in the moment.
Second, a teacher can reflect things to you that you’d never see in yourself – at least not without a lot of self-honesty, that will be difficult to find once we are first on our spiritual path. Denial is usually our companion and we avoid what we fear is painful, even if we are doing it subconsciously. The point is that the teacher has more awareness and can see through the mental and egoic strategies that people eagerly justify and defend.
Third, a teacher creates a safe and supportive environment to allow us to open our hearts and minds in, giving us the chance to explore facets of ourselves we would normally avoid. A great teacher will not use anything we’ve shared against us or even to hurt us, and most importantly will not manipulate us with that information. This is not unlike the connection we’ve with our doctor – what’s discussed in the procedure room stays in the procedure room.
The dangers of such a relationship are observed when a teacher has not totally cleaned their ego-mind and still has the tendency to want to utilize people and situations for their personal benefit. The flip side of this issue is that many times the student doesn’t understand the teacher’s perspective because they can only see from their limited point of view. Then they judge the teacher, not totally understanding their intent or greater picture. In these moments it helps you to talk with other students who’ve been later on before for clarity – one way or another. The purpose of your spiritual path is to boost your individual power, self-love and self-worth, not to provide it away to others.
Other dangers involve becoming mounted on a teacher feeling when they were to leave you that you’d never achieve enlightenment. This really is just another appearance of “I am not good enough” manifesting itself in another guise. There is an old Chinese proverb that says: Teachers open the doorway, but you need to enter by yourself. A teacher can be quite a mirror for you, they can reveal many hidden facets of the mind, and they can mention many of one’s habit behaviors which are causing you pain in your life. But in the long run they cannot do anything for you. You must take action for yourself. Anybody who promises otherwise is really a danger to you.
For me personally, having a teacher has been an incredible blessing in my life. He taught me what unconditional love was through action – not through words. He reflected to me the love and blessing that I am, revealing the lies that I am not. He gave me words of support when the trail was dark and encouraged me when I thought I could not make it. He was brutally honest with me, since there clearly was benefit or investment in lying to me. He lent me his eyes to see the planet through in order that I really could experience that life can be heaven on earth. And above all, he loved me just just how I was, with all my bad habits until I finally could express the light that I am.